Human Diversity reflection 4

Human Diversity reflection 4

I believe that you can never be well-prepared for diversity. It is an ongoing learning experience that takes years to master, with plenty of knowledge to learn from through your experience. Life is full of lessons, once you’ve learned your lesson; you then will be greeted with another lesson to be learned. The experiences I have gone through that have made me understand and become aware of diversity are first being introduced and associated with gays, and lesbians.
My best friend in the sixth grade came out of the closet, during high school. This to me was quite a shocker, yet I was raised to have an open mind and even though this was relatively new to me, I didn’t have a negative reaction. Now most people say, that it’s fine for their friends to be gay, as long as they don’t hit on them and keep their distance. Well I got the best of both worlds. My best friend was a lesbian, and my best friend first hardcore crush was, me! The day she told me, I was taken back, I never realized that she was a lesbian never mind saw me in that way. She began to tell me how much she liked me back in middle school and how when we always hung out with my boyfriend, she wished it was her and not him. Even though she went through tremendous pain keeping it a secret from her friends and family, she also realized that she couldn’t make a person like her. It doesn’t matter if your gay or straight, if the person doesn’t like you there is nothing you can do about it. So, that’s what she did, she moved on. She realized that I was happier being with who I wanted to be with, that all she wanted from me, was for me to be happy. I know this sounds like a happily ever after, but as the years continued so does growing up.
My best friend continued to be there for me through my high school years, and while I was carried away with the boys, she had wrapped herself in her own love story. My best friend fell in love with the girl that helped her come out of the closet. The good news is that this time, the girl was also a lesbian. As the year went by, they started talking, and eventually kicked the notch up to dating. And we all know once you start dating that where the trouble lye’s. Her girlfriend now wasn’t just a lesbian, but she wanted to become transgendered. This is the story of our lives, once we have successfully completed something and getting what we want, everything changes.
Both of these girls became my best friends at one point or another, through the drama, conflict, and misunderstanding, everyone was able to work out what they wanted. Not everyone got what they wanted, but they did get an important life lesson out of all of these, and no life lesson is ever the same for each of us. This shift has taught me about diversity is that nothing should surprise you, everything goes off a little but in reality it’s the same understanding as you and I. A lot of people don’t understand how gays and lesbians have a relationship, but it’s not any different than us. We all still go day to day sometimes year to year trying to find someone we are compatible with to date, they go through the same things. In a relationship, they have fights, they have sex, and they have trust, just like we do. The difference is not what they do, it’s who they are. But we can say that about an African American dating a White woman, it’s not wrong, it’s just not common, and that my friend is diversity for you.